I was at work waiting for a call to come in (we’d been pretty busy with back to back calls) and for the first time there was finally a break. I wanted to take advantage so I quickly grabbed my copy of “Boy meets girl” out of my backpack. I cracked opened the book and delved right in. I was mind blown. I couldn’t believe how different it read from the first time I had attempted to a few years back.
I was reading and re-reading some of the lines that were hitting home most when my co-worker leans over the desk and asks, “Isn’t that a movie? Boy meets girl, right?”
I give him an inquisitive glance, movie? What? I didn’t want to be rude so I shrugged my shoulders, “Maybe. All I know is that this book is based on Godly relationships and doing things right when ‘a boy meets a girl.’”
His eyes were slits.
We’ve had this discussion before. He’s currently living with his baby’s momma. He doesn’t love her, they aren’t dating or planning on getting married, but they want the financial benefit of being able to claim it on taxes. It’s convenient for them. That’s all their ‘relationship’ had become, convenience. I saw a dark cloud forming on his face and I knew he was going to rain on my parade and ask me something or make a crude remark about marriage. It was a game he played, but something I'd grown used to. I was ready.
“So…” he paused for effect. “I know some guy that works here. He’s been married for 20 years. They were both in the military so they got married for the financial benefit. Can you honestly tell me their marriage is wrong?”
I was taken aback. I didn’t know what to answer. Thoughts raced through my mind like hyenas running after antelope. 20 years. Man, that’s a long time. That’s my life basically just add 2 years. I chewed on my response for a while and then said, “I think they married for the wrong reasons. I don’t think that you should get married for the financial benefit.”
Hitting close to home, his face pinched like he’d taken a bite out of a lemon. “But they’ve been married for 20 years! They love each other now… I think it’s fine if they married for the benefits. I don’t see anything wrong with that. I’m with my ex now because of my son. I want to provide the best for him so we live together, but it’s only because of him that we do.”
I closed the book and laid it to the side. It was hard responding correctly without being offensive. It’s like trying to find just the right amount of seasoning on chicken… you want it to be perfect. “I think it’s great that they’ve been married for 20 years and that they love each other now. That’s a blessing, but when I think of wedding vows, I think of my church. I think of when our pastor says ‘the costliest thing is a woman’s heart and a woman’s love.’ I think that when you get married it should be because you truly love each other. That’s the only way it can last. Like that’s great. I’m so happy that they stuck it out, but what if the money had run out? What if those benefits had been taken away? What option would they have had after that, divorce? I know what you’re saying about your son sounds good. Like I get that your intentions are good and you want to take care of him, but the fact is its wrong. It’s not something God honors and you’re going to have to give an account.”
I knew I was rough and I felt a little bad, but I had to say it before a call came ramming into my ear. He stayed quiet for a long time and he pretended he got a call, his back turned to me so I went back to my book.
Later he looks over at me and says quietly, “I think it’s great you stick to your scruples like that. You’re so passionate about it. There are not many people like that.”
I know I’m the last person to be asking about marriage, but after seeing all of my sisters’ marriages, I see the difference. I see the difference when a marriage is blessed by God and when two people love each other. It’s the most beautiful thing. Like they can take a lickin’ and keep on tickin’ because they made a covenant to each other and to God to stick it out. I don’t think anyone should be robbed of that. I think a marriage built on convenience is exactly that… get in conveniently and get out conveniently. But a marriage based on God, based on a strong foundation and full of love, that blessing is for everyone.

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